Wednesday, 27 May 2015

Guest Post, (TW, Self Harm)



I always love having guest posts on Big Fashionista, I am lucky enough to have a lot of readers who I interact with, both here and on Twitter, and I think if my blog can be used as a platform to spread awareness, then my blog door is always open for people to spread the word. If you haven't spoken to Olivia, who is todays guest poster, then you need to give her a follow, she is a lovely person who is always there to #ShareTheLove and make other people feel good. Sometimes, we forget that the people who always spend their time caring about others, need our time too.

If you are affected by what you read, and would like some help or someone to talk to, please contact,


The Samaritans 0845 790 9090

your local doctor. 





Let me pass you over to Olivia, so she can tell you her story, in her own words.

Big Fashionista x x





Hey lovely readers of Big Fashionista, it's Olivia from www.dungarees-and-donuts.co.uk and the lovely Kellie has let me guest post on her blog, which for is very exciting due to me being a long time reader of her blog, and I never thought I'd be guest blogging for her! 


So today I am going to talk about an issue which is close to my heart, I just have to warn you this post could be triggering and I don't want to upset anyone! The topic I am covering today is Self Harm, two big words that still manage to shock a lot of people. To me self harm is still a topic which is very much avoided by a lot of people but I am here to talk to you about my story and why it's important to talk about this issue. 




So first off, I just wanted to start by saying there is not just one way when it comes to self harming, there are SO many different ways that it can be done and people just assume there isn't. The key is in the name of what it is, causing harm to yourself. I am talking from experience where this issue is concerned and I had nobody to help me when it was such a big struggle in my life but at the time it seemed like it was my only way out, and although I am on the road to recovery there are still days when I struggle with the demon. I know there are so many people out there who struggle every single day with such a damaging thing. But I wanted to let you know there are ways through this and you will be ok, I promise you now. It's scary to think how little control you feel you have against yourself when it comes to self harm. For me it was a control thing, I felt like I had no control over my life and felt it was the only way to give myself some power back. 

For me it was about finding a way to give myself the feeling of power without hurting myself or anyone around me. Of course it was hard at first to find ways to get through it, I am not going to lie and said I changed over night because it's not that easy, but with each step forward I managed even longer without stepping back. There were two massive things that helped me through this pain, the first being talking, something as simple as saying to my friends- you know what I am really struggling today, help me. Was enough to distract me away from doing it to myself, having them there really saved me from myself. Secondly my blog, it's crazy to think a little place on the internet has saved me doing something like that to myself, taking my thoughts to the computer and writing out how I felt, it was like a safe haven for me, a place for me to vent and let it all out. 

There are other ways too, you can talk to professionals like your doctor or a nurse believe it or not they don't look at you like your crazy or lock you up and throw away the key, they just want to help and give you the best ways to go forward in this. If you feel like you can't face talking to them, take a friend- ask them to talk for you? Or even find a community online and open up to them about your struggles even if it's anonymous, you are talking and that's a HUGE step. Do not be ashamed to admit you need help, you'll be surprised how many people really are struggling. If you ever need a chat I am here for you, and I know for a fact Kel is too! Remember you are brave and you can beat this!

Love Olivia!

Find me at @_oliviajadexo





Tuesday, 26 May 2015

Trypophobia



I nearly didn't write this post, purely because I couldn't look at the pictures I was trying to source without nearly throwing up.


Trypophobia is a proposed pathological fear of objects with irregular patterns and holes. It isn't an officially recognised condition, but you know what, I don't need a sparkly badge to think.


I HAVE THIS PHOBIA.

Can any of you look at the below pictures without,

A, Shutting down the page.

B, Shutting down the internet

C, Crying








Genuinely, it isn't just me, is it?

This is horrific. Don't even start me on the photoshopped lotus pod instead of an eye picture. URGH,



So tell me. CAN YOU LOOK?


Or are you like me and possibly suffering from Trypophobia?


Let me know.


Big Fashionista x x x




Sunday, 24 May 2015

DKNY, With House Of Watches



Lately, I have found that after years of not owning a watch, and just checking the time via my phone, I have really got back into wearing watches. I tend to treat them as an accessory, not just for telling the time, but to compliment the outfit I am wearing, or just to have someone say, "Oh I LOVE your watch"


When I was asked if I would like to review a watch from House Of Watches, you can check them out here -> http://www.houseofwatches.co.uk my immediate thought was, I need a white watch for summer, you know what I'm saying, white leather strap, suntan, sunglasses. OH MY GOD I NEED A HOLIDAY!!!!

Luckily, House Of Watches had a beautiful DKNY watch, that I instantly knew would be perfect for summer, the band isn't too thick, I don't want to end up with a wide watch strap mark if I can help it, also, the rose gold casing sets off the strap perfectly.











This is the sort of watch I love to wear on holiday, it feels nice and light on my wrist but you can also feel the softness of the leather strap. I am worried about it getting dirty so I do think I will save it for occasions that deserve it.




House of Watches sell a HUGE variety of watches, including Michael Kors, (for all you bloggers out there) or if TAG Heuer is more your style, then they also stock those too, as well as Superdry, for you street style bloggers.




If you want to check out my watch, the Stanhope, it is in stock, and is £75. You can find it on their website, here. http://www.houseofwatches.co.uk




What do you think of my new watch? Do you find you are wearing watches again lately?



Let me know



Big Fashionista x x x


This watch was supplied for review.

Saturday, 23 May 2015

Friday, 22 May 2015

Nom or Vom?



Making it big in the U.S. is HARD, 

This guy has MADE that happen, Over the last few months, we have been treated to this guy cracking the U.S. Talk show market, and showing everyone what a great guy he is. 

Plus any guy that can get Beckham topless in a bath, is ok with me. 

This week, ladies and gents, I bring you, star of The Late Show, James Corden. 








Any guy that can make me laugh, for all the right reasons, can do no wrong in my eyes, so I ask you, 

Ladies and Gents, 

James Corden, 

Nom or Vom?

Let me know.


Big Fashionista x x x

Tuesday, 19 May 2015

I need some Vitamin Sea



I neeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeed a holiday.


That's right, I want some sunshine,



I want to paddle in the sea, not paddle in puddles.

I want my hair to go all tousled with REAL salt spray, giving me beach waves that are actually from the beach, instead of a bottle.

I want to wear a swimming costume, and not be so cold that my nipples are like bullets that can go off at any moment.

I want to sip cocktails, under an umbrella that shades me from the sun, not the rain.

I want to wear a sarong, not in a vaguely ironic way, but because it is polite to not walk into a cafe in a swimsuit, but it is too warm to wear anything else.

I want to wear a hat, a floppy straw hat, to protect my head and face from the midday sun. Not a knitted hat that keeps my ears warm.

and I want to look sun kissed, for REALS, not by Bourjois. (you know I love ya, Bourjois)

I want to carry a light jacket in the evening, in case the breeze picks up, not a puffa jacket because there are gale force winds and it is chucking it down.

I need a break from being cold, (Yes, I know I live in Yorkshire, this is to be expected)

I NEED SOME VITAMIN SEA.


How about you?


What are you looking for?






Sunday, 17 May 2015

BURN THE INTERNET TO THE GROUND

You know when you see something on Facebook that makes you want to burn the whole internet down? 


THIS. 


Just THIS. 





I don't know whether the person who created this, actually believes in their own bullshit, but this should NOT exist. 

It implies that women with stretch marks didn't take care of themselves during pregnancy. 

Like pregnant women don't have enough guilt thrown at them during the time they are creating NEW LIFE? Pick up a glass of anything containing alcohol and you will have people judging you as if you are reaching up inside your own vagina and strangling your unborn child. Eye up certain foods with longing and you are a DESTROYER OF LIFE. Wear heels, don't wear heels, announce you will be breastfeeding, announce you will not be breastfeeding, there will ALWAYS BE SOMEONE THERE TO JUDGE YOU, but to announce that not only did you do something WRONG, but you know what? That body you used to create new life? HIDE IT. HIDE IT AWAY LIKE A SHAMEFUL secret. 

Helllllllllllllllll no. 

I have stretch marks, some people call them tiger stripes, personally I prefer to call them stretch marks, I moisturised, I massaged, I have LOTS OF THEM, I had two children in less than a year, I put on weight, I lose weight, even my stretch marks have stretch marks now. 

Should I have the "common decency to cover my shame"? 

The person who created the piece of crap and shared it on Facebook should've had the common decency not to create this body shaming piece of crap. Whether I choose to flaunt my time ravaged body is nobody's business but my own. 


I'm more offended seeing the above piece of crap being shared than I would be seeing stretch marks. 

How about you? 


Let me know. 


Big Fashionista x x x