Wednesday, 21 December 2011

A Facebook question for you to help with

So I am a huge fan of Facebook. Ok, I do get bored of all the Farmville updates and people wanting magic beans, and to poke me and what-nots, but the arguments between old school friends and the occasional drunken picture (erm, not mine, honest) do mostly make it worthwhile.

Very, very occasionally there is a status that really gets me thinking and the other day a Facebook friend called Sarah asked a question that got my brain cells firing on all cylinders

What is the difference between "seeing" someone and "dating" someone?


Now let me give you a bit of background on me so that you understand why I don't know the answer.

I have been in a relationship with the same man for the last 17 years, we have three beautiful children together and experience the normal highs and lows of any normal relationship.

I can't possibly answer the question that Sarah asks.

But maybe you guys can.

Is there a time when a relationship goes from seeing to dating?

What is the difference between seeing and dating anyway?

Let me know what you think it is.

Facebook needs to know

Big Fashionista x x


  1. Well you've puzzled me now, I always thought 'seeing' and 'dating' were the same thing? I suppose 'seeing' could infere less serious commitment to building a relationship - which dating definatley is.

  2. I think they're the same thing, although dating sounds a bit more official than 'seeing' someone. Perhaps 'dating' is an American thing, and 'seeing' someone is the more casual UK version.

    Here's a question back: Do you think Facebook accelerates relationships? We now know far more about people through Facebook, before we even have a face-to-face conversation, and there's so much pressure to change your status to 'in a relationship' that I wonder if this sometimes makes people commit a lot faster?

  3. Hold on, I'll ask Emily who seems to have some understanding of these new complex relationhips structures - my question would be shagging or not shagging? - but apparently that's no where near subtle enough, who knew? OK here's the official answer straight from my 19 year old daughter: Seeing, you are going out, having sex but are by mutual agreement not exclusive. Dating, going out, having sex and this time doing any of those things with anyone else is called "being a bastard". Hope that helps!

  4. Would have to agree with Em Debbie, that would be my take on it too!

  5. I think 'seeing' sounds more casual fun than actually expecting it to go anywhere.
    'Dating' sounds like you're a bit more committed to the thought it developing into a relationship.

  6. Dating implies a much more organised structure than seeing, usually seeing is very casual. Dating implies activities and repetitive meetings. So seeing is the less formal version of dating.

  7. Dating is American, I'd say - difference between seeing/dating someone and being in a proper relationship is that when you're seeing/dating someone you still get out of bed before they wake up, put makeup on and get back into bed.

    When you're in a relationship you barely remember to shave your legs.

    At least that's what I hear. I can't entirely remember...


  8. I agree with ihavemostly been, I'd say 'seeing' is a lot more casual, and 'dating' has the potential to go somewhere :)

  9. I've lived in the UK for 15 years and I've never heard British people say 'seeing someone' or 'dating'. I think these are Americanisms that have slipped into everyday conversation.

    Keep in mind a lot of Americans 'date' several people at once until it is confirmed as 'serious' and you don't want to see other people. I got tripped several times when I first moved here because I would see several men at once until I realised it was not the done thing here for the most part.


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