Wednesday, 6 June 2012

Are you a secret blogger?


So here's the thing, I really don't think that my family and most of my friends are completely sure what it is that I actually do here on my blog.

(although I must admit that there are days when I wonder that as well!)

Am I alone in being a SECRET BLOGGER?

Now, I don't mean in a Gossip Girl sort of way,  It isn't a dirty little secret (That's a whole other blog post) it just seems that almost no-one in my (real life) circle reads what I write, talks to me about what I write or seems to have any real idea what I am on about when I talk about my blog.

If I have to say "No, not like Carrie F***ing Bradshaw" one more time, I may cry. (or
punch someone, yeah, I'll go with punch someone)

My eldest daughter seems to have the best idea about what I do but that's because she watches a lot of Disney Channel where it seems like every third character is a blogger (although about 25 years younger than me apparently, beeeeyatch)

My blog was offline for a couple of days over the weekend (Did ya miss me?) and while I was champing at the bit and feeling completely lost without it, no-one outside of the blogging community really GOT how I was feeling.

Blogging is such a huge part now of who I am and it is sad that some people in my life don't share that with me.
So am I alone in feeling like a secret blogger? Do you sometimes feel as if your blogging is something that your family and friends don't understand or are you truly a secret blogger and purposely keep it secret from everyone? How does that work for you?

Let me know.


Big Fashionista x x



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  1. I'm exactly the same, my family and friends know about my blog but have no interest in the blogging world so don't read it. In fact, my fiance confessed last week that he wouldn't even know where to find my blog, no matter read it! Sometimes, we're so deep into the 'blogosphere' and Twitter that we forget that a lot of people have no understanding/interest of it. A lot of my extended family think its just an online diary, or a 'waste of time'. I kinda like that it's separate from them though.

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    1. My OH hasn't read mine either. And now I've changed my domain name he certainly wouldn't be able to find me ;)

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  2. I think I am the other way, LOL. Family and friends love reading my blog, will always say 'oh, I really liked that post you did,' etc etc. Just don't seem to be making a huge amount of headway in the blogging community though I am extremely grateful for those peeps who do follow my witterings. Makes my day. I love writing it and will press on. Slowly, slowly - and all that X

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    1. Yep. That's exactly it. It just takes time

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  3. I find my lot are indifferent to it. My son, who I asked just once to hold the camera for a manicure shot said 'do that weird claw hand thing then' which makes me think he has read it at some point.
    We don't make a fuss in our house about stuff.
    My Mum is a tv 'personality' and apart from the first few times she was on, we don't really celebrate that, its odd. My dad just wants to know when its going to start earning money (never, Dad, sorry) and my sister likes it when I mention her. Thats about it.
    You guys are all I have.

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    1. Awwwwwwwwwwww I know the feeling babe.

      I know the feeling

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  4. Yes yes yes!! I am a secret blogger! I've been blogging for 9 months now and my blog has grown from 100 hits a months to 25,000 hits a month. I've been nominated for awards, shortlisted for competitions and been contacted by publishers. However, despite my best efforts, my friends, family and housemate don't get it or worse give a dam! I'm sure if it wasn't 'blogging' and was something more mainstream then things may be different. Like you blogging is a huge part of me, it changed my life in many ways and helped no end with problems I was having, and it's weird that people close to me don't seem interested. It's clearly popular but in some ways not with the people I want it to be popular with! It's appreciated by people I don't know and in many ways I write for them but it can feel quite isolated! That's partly because I keep my identity as secret as possible for work reasons but my close friends and family know! My house mate has been sat there when most of my posts have been written and I can safely say, he's never read 1 post! Sometimes I want to scream!

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    1. I'm off to read now! My OH I think is jealous of the attention I give my blog. It's the third person in our relationship ;-) hope he never makes me choose :-D

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    2. That's so true, the one time my friends and family have been interested is when one of my posts for The Times online got a mention in the paper. 'It's not proper unless it's print' seems to apply.

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    3. Love your blog Ella!

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    4. Fucking brilliant blog Ella x

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  5. Phew! What a relief you are back. Was worried for you over the weekend. I am not only a 'secret blogger' but clearly also a 'secret businesswoman' as not one single member of mine or my husband's family have ever bought anything from my vintage fashion website (can I put the link on here? http://www.lovelysvintageemporium.com)since I launched it 13 months ago yet TRILLIONS of Twitter and Facebook people I have never met have...makes you wonder...

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  6. My friends know I blog but I don't let them read it because it's so personal. I don't like the idea of people I know in real life reading my blog but I have no problem with complete strangers though which is weird. A big part of it is me not wanting my identity revealed. It wouldnt stay anonymous for long if word got out and I'd be mortified if my parents read it!

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    1. I read your blog Hun, I'd be mortified if MY mother read it ;-D

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  7. My siblings and a few friends from before my Twitter/blogging days know about my blog but I'm not aware they read it unless I specifically point them to a post. I kind of like it that way, in that my blog is very personal - depression, debt, bereavement (and also sweary, irreverent and occasionally funny!) - and I think there are things in it they might feel uncomfortable reading about or take offence at - I certainly wouldn't post my blog to Facebook, I can't imagine anything worse.

    I am pretty comfortable with the fact that my readership is pretty much all Twitter-based. I am still writing for myself as much as for an audience and Twitter has proven itself to be so supportive of me and has led to such genuine friendships, I can't really ask for more.

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  8. Everyone knows I blog; friends, family the whole lot and apart from one friend no one follows or reads my blogs. I think most of them quietly think I have always had far too much to say for myself which makes me annoying in real life, so they'd never voluntarily subject themselves to more of my opinionted tripe. They are all quite happy to sneer when I talk about "friends" from the blogging and twitter communities though. God I sound bitter don't I! But I hate people who have an opinion on a subject they know nothing about!!

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    1. Oh God yes, the idea that friends you meet online can't be 'real' friends drives me up the wall. When I mention such and such a friend, I get "oh is s/he one of your "twitter people..." usually accompanied by quotey fingers and a knowing smirk.

      I've given up trying to explain it, all it does is make me cross as they refuse to accept that me meeting someone I connect with via social networking is absolutely no different to them meeting someone at a playgroup, the pub, at the gym etc etc.

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    2. Do you find that sometimes Twitter friends can be there for you more than real friends?

      I do.

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    3. Yes I do, but I often think that's because I share more with Twitter and it's always there, whereas real life friends don't have that access to my thoughts and feelings as they happen. Sometimes though, Twitter mates are just nicer people!

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    4. I have lovely friends in the outside world, but in moments of real stress when you really need to vent and you let rip on twitter you can guarantee a raft of really lovely people will check you are ok, thats what I love about twitter. And Bare Faced Lady if I'm not already following you I'm about to!

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  9. Greeeat post Kellie!

    My boyfriend was actually the one who encouraged me to start mine, but he doesn't read it often these days. My mum, my nan and my sister read it religiously. My best mate knows about it but has never read it. One of my work mates from my old job reads it. I don't really have any other 'real life' friends so all my other friends are bloggers, obviously they read it!

    As for my current job, I actually got the job kind of through my blog by proxy, so they've all read it!

    I count myself as pretty lucky that pretty much everyone of significance in my life knows about and/or reads my blog. It used to be a super secret, but it's such a huge part of my life that it would seem wrong to keep it so quiet.

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    1. It is sad for me that no-one really gets what I do. Although some friends say to me "so where you off to today?" and then just roll their eyes like I think I'm a mega star ;)

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  10. My Mum is completely computer illiterate and says daily 'so what are you putting on your little blog thingy today?' then says 'and don't be talking about ME in your interweb facespace thingy.'
    My OH never reads it, my kids never read it, my dad probably doesn't even remember I have one.
    My best mate reads it - then emails me saying 'yeah but is it REALLY good?'

    I give up.

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    1. Yep. "little blog thingy" is something I hear a lot. My OH is jealous of the time I give to my blog sometimes. And my mother wouldn't have a clue as she freely admits to never reading it. Sigh

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  11. Mine is a secret. I used to have a 'public' blog, but I found that everyone kept analysing everything I did and how I would blog about it.

    Then there was jealously, 'why have you blogged about X but not me.'

    I like having a kind of secret life. I won't hide it if anyone asks but I don't actively promote it.

    I have a few friends from blogging previously who I kept in touch with via Twitter, who know me as Secret Blogger though.

    C
    xxx

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    1. I suppose when you put it that way I can see why it's easier when people don't know x

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  12. My family know I do it, but my mother never uses a thing on her face so she isn't really interested, I think my younger sister thinks I will get bored soon, 8 months and still going!
    My brother is 19 and cares about one thing, himself!
    Emmy is fascinated with my blog, she is 5 and loves seeing herself on it! She also likes to check my pictures before putting them on and tells me not to put blurry ones on!
    My now ex thinks I only did it for free stuff, yes thanks for the support!
    Otherwise all of my followers are internet chums, bar my best mate, who only follows my blog on Facebook but doesn't 'get' what I do

    I must admit that sometimes I feel silly when I talk to friends about my blog as they seem to find it odd that I take pics of my nails and put them on the internet, makes me feel a bit small and childish sometimes, but I LOVE blogging!

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    1. My OH shakes his head whenever I get a parcel! Part of him thinks that I am only in it for the freebies! I tell him NOTHING is free in this world.

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    2. I have only just got my first PR samples, my ex is used to the parcels as I am a spender! So he questions nothing, just the insinuation that that is the reason I started was insulting. He thought I would last for a few posts and get bored!

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  13. I know exactly where you are coming from... my mother-in-law is probably the only person who reads it regularly. My sister-in-law reads sometimes and leaves comments but she's got her own blog so she gets it more than most. The OH makes constant jokes about my laptop arm extension. I could say something similar about his xbox controller but I don't (well actually I do but that's another story) I am amazed that while the blogging community is so vast and vibrant so many of us feel like none of our "real" friends and family are actually a part of it...

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    1. I think it takes a fellow blogger to 'get' the blogging thing. Most of my friends are older than me and have no idea what a blog actually is and glaze over when I try and explain!

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  14. I'm not a secret blogger as such but I do find it difficult to explain what I do without feeling totally daft. My OH has finally realised that it's my hobby and sort if ignores the amount of makeup and stuff I have... But still makes the odd joke about being best friends with the post man!!

    I absolutely love what I do and I know some of my friends read it and probably think what the hell but it's my little bit of escapism and I've met loads of wonderful people as a result!! Xx

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  15. I don't think my friends and family get my blogging either but then I haven't exactly been blabbing on about it. I have very little "me time" so blogging is something completely disconnected from my every day responsibilities and allows me to be in my own little world and share some of it with lovely people :)

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  16. My blog is connected tangentially with my academic work (research in children's literature), and since academic people don't think that's "real" research and non-academic friends don't understand my academic life, that kind of leaves me with blogging/ Twitter community! In fact, I have fallen out with some Facebook friends over posting links to my blog there... I love your blog, Kellie. It never fails to make me smile.

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  17. A few people know i.e my boyfriend, my parents, a few friends. Anyone that I know in real life that follows me on Twitter must also know, the amount I tweet about blogging. I don't keep it a secret as such, I just don't like talking about my blog to people that I couldn't really give two hoots about!

    xo

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  18. I know what you mean, most of my family know I have a blog but have never seen it and don't really know what I even blog about. I don't think they'd really understand, but if you love it then it shouldn't matter what everyone else thinks. Keep blogging and go for it:)
    xo
    www.mademoisellecharlotteanne.blogspot.co.uk

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  19. My husband and close friends know about my blog but that's it! I couldn't possibly tell anyone I work with as I think it would probably be frowned upon to be honest, and they definitely wouldn't 'get' it. And I can't even imagine trying to explain what it's all about to my mother!

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  20. I was a secret blogger for a while! I only told close friends but I was really reluctant to post it on social media websites because I was scared of the backlash I was going to get from it. I do a fashion blog so I didn't want to appear vain or more superior or whatever. But obviously now I have gotten over that anxious phase. I want to be a journalist/writer so at the end of the day if you don't put yourself out there and be like THIS IS ME then nobody else is going to. People may ridicule me and whatever but at least I'm brave enough to try and establish myself out there!

    Gemma x

    www.gemmasatire.blogspot.co.uk

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  21. I know what you mean - my OH, my mum, brother and a couple very close family members know about my blog but absolutely NONE of my friends - I'm a nail blogger and to be honest they don't even get why I paint my nails frequently, it's always a subject of partial teasing partial 'she's a bit weird...' so there is no WAY I would tell them about my blog! It sounds bizarre but it makes more sense to men than it does to women - men seem to accept it as a 'woman-thing', while other women who don't share my passion think I'm on another planet. So intend to keep myself to 'secret-blogger-dom' for the forseeable future! xx

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    1. haha, I get comments like 'so, how many times a week DO you paint your nails' like that is all I do!

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  22. I also find you must be selective with whom you share your baby. I showed my Amelia Earheart Nailart to Chris my bessie, a medical engineer, and all he could say was, what the lesbian?

    Tumbleweed.

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  23. Now as you would expect from the serial deleter of blogs I too am a secret blogger. My family know, in fact my daughter who has more brain sense than me, urged me to set it up again as she knew I enjoyed it. My big problem is that I can get crippled with shyness (bizarrely on my blog rather than in real life where I know I am a grumpy old cow and so does everyone else) and that can stop me blogging. Make of that what you will...hormones probably xx

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    1. I love you Jan and you are ALWAYS welcome here and I love it when you reappear x x

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  24. I feel this blog requires another comment, so that's what it's getting!

    The more I thought about it, the more it annoyed me! So, after eating a box of cakes I phones my mum and my sister and told them if they couldn't tell me about 3 of my blogs by tomorrow their upcoming birthday presents would be withheld! I also signed them both up to my blog on email without telling them. That will show them!

    Thanks for your blog. Fab! That is all!

    Ella Shaw :-) x

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  25. Mine's definitely secret. As in, *hardly anybody* ever reads it. As for people I know, I don't think any friends have ever seen it, family certainly not. With the exception of my daughter who only cares if there's a picture of her in it, and MrNightingale who doesn't read it as far as I know and so may not find out that today's post has one of his nipples in it.

    But then, I'm flaky as hell and sporadic at best, not properjob bloggers like you guys. So it's probably best ;)

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  26. Loveeee this post! I'm a total secret blogger as the only person who even knows about my blog is my sister who is a total "tom boy" so doesn't read it anyway! I feel like because I've had it for like six months now I wouldn't know how to tell people without making it sound like a big deal. I would like to just slip it into conversation but don't think that would work haha!
    x

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    1. Ha ha ha yeah I totally get what you mean babe. But it is nice to be able to share what you do isn't it?

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  27. Would u believe it, I was actually thinking about this issue today whilst writing a post! I wanted to ask people if they had supportive other halves when it came to their blogging. A select few of my friends know about my site but I know none of them would even know where to find it. It really is a shame. I feel like I can't share the little successes that happen as the blog grows.. But i think they'd be quick to jump on board u became a millionaire or famous from it perhaps?? Lady of vintage x

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  28. When I did my guest posts I sent the links to friends and family. None of them read them. None of them responded. But my twitter friends and bbloggers were fantastically supportive. This makes me a little sad but also happy as the people who 'get it' responded.

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  29. Yeah, I'm a secret blogger although that sounds like a much more glamourous term than it really is! More like a spy ducking and diving through fashion shows or something, not a girl blogging behind her laptop! ;) But I think I'm sounding more like 'pity me' than anything else...

    Maybe I've not told anyone, because my blog is not as awesome as yours! You never know.. :P

    ~Hannah xx

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  30. I guess I am sort of a secret blogger because I don't really shout about my blog. I'm not a big fan of attention, weirdly, and if anyone was to read my blog I wanted them to read because they found it themselves and liked it, not just because they were a friend or family member that I had asked to read it xx

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  31. I am a secret and anonymous blogger. Apart from three of my friens noone else who knows me in real life has read it (apart from I think my husband may have found me out- due to silly pr person sending things to my real name, then blog name!!). I've been at it for 3 years!

    BNM

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  32. I am not really a secret blogger, but I don't talk about it with my family, if they come across it then fine, but I don't shout about it as it's my little place and I don't write it for them to read necessarily (plus I feel my MIL would disapprove of my language, ah well lmao)I've had a few friends come across from Twitter and read it and have said nice things, but in some ways I feel I'd like more anonymity, maybe I'll set up a whole secret one and really let loose ;)

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  33. I'm a secret blogger, I think very few people I know in real life real my blog. I quite like that! I dont have to censor as much.

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  34. Now I'm "public" my blog has changed! Get friends and family commenting on my days out posts and photographs

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  35. Well I *was* a secret blogger but I was recently 'outed' by a work colleague and suddenly became the subject of a lot of gossip in the staffroom. I blogged about this very subject today, and then saw your thread on the Parent Blogger's FB page. Great minds, eh?

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  36. Everyone knows I blog, but my husband, family and close friends don't read it. I have a big following among my 'school gate' friends and I find it weird that they know more about me than I do about than them - and sometimes they know more about me than my own husband! I'm just starting to break into the 'blogging' world and find I prefer the anonymity of talking to people I don't know, but wouldn't want to forget the readers who have stuck with me for the best part of a year. Interesting post!

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