Monday, 16 July 2012

A special guest post follow up



A couple of weeks ago when I went on my hell-idays I featured a weeks worth of guest posts and while all of them were both interesting and widely extremely well received, one of them captured your hearts.

Guest Post

I'm sure you remember.

So today I bring you a follow up guest post from your favourite Anon so that they can tell you what's been happening since their last guest post.


I hope you enjoy and are as proud as I am right now.




Right, where was I?.......

I wanted to return to this marvellous blog to thank all the readers and people that commented on my guest post back in June. A lot has happened since I wrote that blog! I am now living as a woman full time and married Dannii Minogue!............Only joking! although now I'm wishing the Dannii part was true.

Since writing that post I have been overwhelmed by the response from people who totally understood where I was coming from. I was totally and utterly overwhelmed and suprised by the amount of people that were interested in what I had to say and my views on being a Transvestite. I actually started a blog off the back of that, so I could open up to more people.

Since the realisation that being a Cross-Dresser isn't the most shocking and craziest thing in the world I began to open up a bit more to closer friends. By doing so I created quite a stir amongst the guys that know me. I simply posted a Few Pics on my Twitter to see what would happen. The reaction's went from "Bloody Hell mate, your Sister is fit!!" to "Finally decided to open up" to even " Thats cool mate, oh do you have my Pulp Fiction DVD?"

It dawned on me that a lot of people just simply don't care! Not in a horrible way but more in a " Yeah ok, but I'm busy at the moment" way. It kind of made me take note that even though this hobby of mine is a major par of my life, it's not a major part of others, which in a strange way makes me feel a lot better about myself. This way I now know who I can share it with and open up freely and who I don't need to discuss it with.

I also found out that the entire dressing up and looking like a girl thing, can make some guys uncomfortable. I got some messages, none that were hurtful, that seemed to be awkward. It was a shock to some guys that are use to me being a guy seeing me look better than some girls in my local town. Am I causing some people to question their sexuality? If so, GOOD! It means I make a good looking woman!

So here's what I wanted to talk about. Does fancying a Transvestite/Transsexual/Cross-Dresser make you Bisexual? Gay? Lesbian?

Like I have said before I am attracted to femininity. I love women. the way they dress, hold themselves, put on their make up, just generally the feminine qualities they hold. SO if I saw a Guy dressed up as a woman and he looked good, and I fancied him, would that change my sexuality?
I personally don't think it does, as I am attracted to the femininity of the appearance. what is between the legs isn't a factor at this point, it's all about instant attraction.
I have never found a Guy attractive, I can appreciate if a guy is good looking, but I have never had the same attraction to a guy in a masculine presence than I would at a female or a Transvestite etc.
But you have to remember sexuality is purely a label and sometimes labels can be replaced. Being attracted to something doesn't generally have to label you or place you in a box.

It's a Bit of Food for Thought. Below are a Few Pics of Transsexuals and Genetic Women. Can you guess who was born a female and who has honed the art of confusion?


















How Many did You Get Right?

I shall continue to blog under http://madeupego.blogspot.co.uk and tweet from @heelsandtelly and if we start chatting then I'll start following you from my guy account But lets take it one tweet at a time. #StayFab




Thank you so so much for this follow up babe, I truly appreciate it.

Make sure you all leave some love on this page, I have really enjoyed seeing the change in confidence in this person, I know some of you now know and chat to them on both accounts but I obviously have to respect their privacy and leave it down to them to feel comfortable enough to reveal more to you.


All I can say is that I am so so so proud of you. x x x




How about you guys?


Let me know


Big Fashionista x x










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22 comments

  1. Much love :D It's been great following your journey, we're all very lucky you decided to share your story xx

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    1. Thank you sweets x I'm glad you are enjoying the journey with me :-) x

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  2. Wow. Its brave of you to be out on the open. Don't be ashamed of what you are. Be proud of it. Cause only in that way you'll know your true friends who accepts the real you.

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    1. Thanks x I am not ashamed to be myself and share my hobby with people :-) thanks for the kind words

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  3. I love this, thank you for writing a follow up! I used to know a guy who cross-dressed (the ex of a friend) and tried to hide it so much that he got the manliest job he could find, one that meant he was constantly covered in grease. A small number of us knew, and didn't care. He was still the same person. Watching that man scrub his fingernails so that he could wear polish for even a few hours in the comfort of his own home was in equal parts soul-destroying and uplifting - I remember thinking how sad it was that he felt he had to hide it, but how amazing it was that he would scrub his hands to within an inch of his life just to be able to paint his nails bright red and feel amazing for an hour. I haven't seen him in a long, long time but the last time I saw him he had grown his hair really long, so hopefully he's gaining the confidence to express himself a little more. On the subject of sexuality - I consider myself a straight woman - I'm a mum, I'm engaged to a man, and while the thought of having sex with a woman doesn't appeal to me, I definitely can appreciate an attractive woman, and have seen some stunning looking transvestites/transsexuals. Bar one, I couldn't tell the birth gender of the people above. It doesn't really matter, I don't think. Following you on twitter now, Sorry for the essay!

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    1. Wow what a great comment. I hope my story can inspire or help more guys like me. The ones who find it difficult to express themselves and not get pigeon holed into being gay or a certain stereotype.
      As for sexuality I know exactly what I'm attracted to. Gender can sometimes create confusion but if we're talking first impression attraction it's very simple x

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  4. I unfortunately havnt had the chance to read your last blog, but think its brilliant that you are able to be the person you want to. You make a very important point that all of us reguardless of our geneder/sexuality/age/all the other s***e we feel people will judge us on.....actually most people are far too busy with their own lives to be majorly bothered by what u are doing ....If we would all realise this we could be much happier just being ourselves

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    1. Thank you. And exactly I had built up in my head that if I told people I dressed as a woman then the whole world would stop and react. In reality most people shrug it off.
      I feel more people should embrace the attitude of being happy with ones self and respecting others choices.
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  5. My viewpoint is, as long as you are happy with who you are and not hurting anyone in the process, do what the hell you want!

    I shall toddle over to your blog and have a read, I did read your 1st guest post and was most impressed by your honesty in it.

    Carry on being you, being happy and making other's see that some things aren't as taboo as they think it is.

    Massive love xo

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  6. Liane Greathead16 July 2012 at 15:10

    Attraction is attraction and love is love. I don't think we should be blinded by gender. I love how more people are thinking outside the box now and saying to hell with "traditional" thinking.

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    1. Exactly Liane :) So true! Im talking about first time impressions when it comes to attraction. Why people change their minds when their instincts where originally to be attracted, just because of gender, baffles me
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  7. Dude, you're awesome. Keep up the good work!

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    1. Ha Ha Duddette is good! :) proper chuffed to get good responses and meet some awesome peeps on the blog :)

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  8. Hun, so long as YOU are happy being YOU! As you said a lot of people weren't bothered and like a lot of things in life, sometimes we magnify them in our head so much not realising that people either know or already or aren't bothered because they love you anyway. Its a great follow up post and I wish you all the best. Long may self honesty continue x

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    1. Thank you so Much x :) I am a big believer of honesty and my blog posts hopefully fulfill that quota. I write with so much honesty sometimes i think im being too honest lol x

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  9. Thanks for sharing, the world needs a little more open-ness, otherwise how can we accept ourselves and other people properly?! Was really interesting to hear your thoughts- love that you came to the realisation that most people are too busy with their own lives to be majorly bothered about what's bothering us! (Not trying to be patronising, I wish I could learn that my world is the only world that revolves around me haha.)

    Keep on trucking, hope your optimism continues- it will serve you well :)

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    1. Thank you soo much, Im glad I am supplying optimism today :) x

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  10. Stay true to yourself and those true to you will stay with you.

    Well done for the honesty in your post. I wish you all the happiness and love in the future. xx

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    1. Thank you so much, Im glad you enjoyed the post. Hopefully you can enjoy more at my own blog :) x

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  11. Great post. As someone who is transgender, I can understand how it feel to be more open with the people who are close to you, and the pleasant surprise when you realise those close to you love you for you. Good luck with the future, and I am sure you have some wonderful times ahead xx.

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