Tuesday, 26 February 2013

All the women, who independent.....

There has been a lot of talk recently about people being disappointed they couldn't get tickets to Beyonce's latest tour.

Me? Well I'm just disappointed in Beyonce.

THIS is the woman who sang,

"Question: Tell me what you think about me
I buy my own diamonds and I buy my own rings
Only ring your cell-y when I'm feelin lonely
When it's all over please get up and leave
Question: Tell me how you feel about this
Try to control me boy you get dismissed
Pay my own fun, oh and I pay my own bills
Always 50/50 in relationships"

Which is, nice.

She sang about paying her own bills, taking no shit and being independent, let's face it, Beyonce is legendary for being ballsy, brave and strong. Her tunes have, over the years, become ANTHEMS for women wanting to achieve things on their own and be the amazing women they knew they could be.

And then Beyonce announces her new tour and what does she call it?

The Mrs Carter Show!!!!!!

Headbutts desk. (Or kitchen worktop if you prefer, Beyonce)

Seriously Beyonce? What was going through your head when you named your tour The Mrs Carter Show?

To me, it really doesn't scream independence, it doesn't even ask its husbands permission to be independent.

If Beyonce was standing in front of me now singing, "All you women who independent, throw your hands up at me"

And she had the AUDACITY to lift her hand up, I would be all up in her face clicking my fingers in a z-formation giving her a "uh-uh, oh no she di'nt" look of disbelief.

Mrs Carter Show?

Yes, yes, we get it Beyonce, you're married now, congratulations, but the ring goes on your finger hun, not through your nose.

What's the next tour called? Blue Ivys mummy tour?

Beyonce puts on a great show, she has achieved some fantastic things in her career and from a woman who sang so loudly about independence it leaves a bitter taste in my mouth to read that she has given herself over so readily to just being "Mrs Carter" as though that is all she is now.

But I am nothing if not fair. So I am turning the floor over to you guys.

I want to know what YOU think about it all.

Is Beyonce putting the dependent in independent?

Or am I reading too much into the name of her tour and is it just a tip of the hat to the man she loves?

Let me know.

Big Fashionista xx



  1. Nope - you got it spot on. Don't doubt yourself - ever!

  2. I kinda lost a teeny bit of respect for her when she released Single Ladies and everyone knew she wasn't, in fact, a single lady. The entire "independent woman" thing looked like a total act from then on out. Like yes, you can be a completely independent woman, flaunt your awesome single-ness, shoulda put a ring on it, excuse me while I go home to my husband and child and laugh at all the single ladies waving their wedding-ring-free hands at me while I admire my sparkly rocks. Ugh I dunno. I shouldn't be allowed comment past 12am. Did any of that make any kind of sense?

  3. I don't like it, I don't think she should define herself as someone's wife. She's arguably more famous than him anyway!

  4. It's not often I don't wholeheartedly agree with your posts but on this occasion, I think you may be reading too much in to it hun.
    Whether its my love for old B that is clouding my judgement I don't know. Possibly. But maybe she's just happy to be married and wanted to share it? I don't know. But it's not like she called it "the ball & shackled to the kitchen sink, while my husband watches the football show". Even if she did, surely it's her actions not her show title that show define her?

  5. I don't know because to be honest she is Mrs Beyonce Carter and that's really how she's been for a good few years now.

    It's not saying she doesn't have an identity apart from her husband, it's just that it now includes him

  6. I have found in my vast experience that most of us are happy to be independent and single, UNTIL the right guy/girl comes along, and then it's all 'let me cater to you' and dinner in skimpies and breakfast in bed. I'm not saying its right, it's just life and love. You will still be paying your rent and bills even long after marriage so I don't think the two are exclusive.

  7. I don't think it would be a bad thing if she called her next tour Ivy's Mummy tour to be honest. I think this is her showing another side to her as her personal life develops. It's a funny one as yes I agree it's good to show independence but we and her shouldn't be defined and restricted by being wifes/mothers so as much as it can be viewed as stifling, it can also be liberating.

  8. You are spot on darling! I'm astounded that the woman who is said to personify female independence in the 21st Century is actually doing this shit. I have no idea what she is thinking of. In fact I'm not entirely sure she is thinking at all.

  9. Hahahaha, not going to lie, you have a point!! At the end of the day she's a manufactured pop star who's ethos will change with the times it seems. Now the media seems to be focused around women being with men... whereas in her Destiny's Child days it was more the whole Girl Power Spice Girls thing going down? That's the impression I get anyway. My opinion of the media nowadays is that despite a lot of pro women news items you still can't seem to spell empowerment without MEN... Rihanna for example.

  10. Now, as someone who has refused, point blank, to change their name on marriage (and had a hissy fit recently when a parcel *I* ordered, *I* bought and *I* paid for arrived addressed to "Mr & Mrs Lippie", to boot) I guess I should be expected to agree with this post.

    But I don't - sorry, Kellie!

    The thing is ... the thing is ... the fight for independence (and, not coincidentally, equal rights in general) is actually a fight to be able to make choices. Choices about jobs, appearance, life choices in general, really.

    And all of *that* includes what to call yourself. If Beyonce wants to call herself Mrs Carter, then SHE has made that choice, and that is, frankly, an independent decision. If her record company had called it the Mrs Carter tour, then you'd have a point.

    It's her name, she can use it as she wishes. I chose not to change my name, and that's MY choice too.

    1. I like the distinction. Too many women are shut up by people who say 'you're not much of a feminist if you want a man' or 'what kind of a feminist wants babies and to stay at home' and it really is a good way of not allowing us to have a real voice or choice. We want what guys have had, freedom to choose. Very basic and straight forward.

    2. That's a very good point. Hmmm.

  11. Yours sincerely,
    Hugh Jackman (Mrs)

  12. The Mrs Carter Tour..... I thought about this one and I can't say I'm that bothered. Now if she had a sub heading "Last Tour Because I Need to Look After my Husband" then that's a different story.

    She can be independant and still be a Mrs, just as she can be a mother and still have a life.

    Everyone is so ready to put people into boxes, even the most independant of us. I say do want you want and be whatever you want to be. She is still a great example to young girls and women, unlike a certain Rhianna but that's another issue!

  13. I don't think Beyonce has ever done anything I didn't like. They kept their relationship quiet for so long for their own privacy but I can only imagine she wanted to shout from the rooftops sometimes so I think the fact she's called her your what she has is probably just a celebration that she can. I don't think being proud of your marriage makes you any less independent

  14. I think I have to disagree with you lovely.

    The fact she has her own tour and the bazillions she makes out of it is independent enough. Its probably just her way of giving a token of affection towards him.

    Woman have worked really hard for equality and choices. Woman can choose when they get married whether or not they change their surname. After nearly 2 years of marriage, I haven't (as of yet).

    We seem to have moved on from Men telling what woman what to do, to woman telling other woman what to do. If that is her choice, then it is just that :)

  15. Interesting read. I have to agree with some of the other comments that were made. Just because you are married doesn't make you less independent as someone else had pointed out. I believe that everyone goes through things at different stages in their lives and end of up putting it in a song or writing about it years later. Why? Because it may help someone else along the way. I appreciate the success of Women and how far we have come in this society. So lets clap for all the ladies because we are doing it and making things happen. Make it a great day everyone!

  16. I can see your point but I think maybe you are reading to much into it, only because I adore B and don't think she could do anything wrong in my eyes.

    She is married and Mrs Carter is her name so I don't see why not call it the Mrs Carter show :)


  17. This is an interesting post and it's been good to read the subsequent discussion.

    However I'm at a loss to see how getting married automatically means you are no longer independent. My husband and I split household bills 50/50 and pay for our individual things (cars, phones etc.) ourselves. Yes I took his name, but my life is still my own... I just have another person to share it with. You have assumed Beyonce is no longer her own person now she is married, suggesting that you think women become a slave to their husband as soon as they say "I do"... Ironically this opinion seems more 1950s than her actions are.

    Thank you for sharing :) x

  18. I had actually heard that stylistically she wanted to call it that in the vein of 1950s American tv shows as its going to have a retro vibe to it. Like her 'why don't you love me' video. When I've heard it talked about by her people it seems to be to subvert the little mrs 1950s stereotype.

    I like that subversion, the retro aspect to it I think is going to be interesting.

  19. great post I agree also there was a topic about her on loose women today about the trainers she has design using lots of different animals skins really disgusting.

  20. I've seen quite a few comments about this subject matter. They seem to have a very balanced relationship, did you know that her husband has actually double barrelled his name, so they are actually legally called Mr and Mrs Carter-Knowles. She owes a fair amount of her success to his professional guidance and experience he is nearly 10 years her senior perhaps this is her way of showing her appreciation. But then I am biased because I am Beyonce's No.1 stan. haha.



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