Tuesday, 3 December 2013

Let's Talk About Sex(uality) Baby

I am sure that there will be hundreds of posts like this around at the moment, but I like to think of this as my corner of the internet where I am able to discuss what I want to in a calm rational manner.

Tom Daley announcing on YouTube he has met someone who makes him happy and he just happens to be a guy, has been the talk of social media channels since it happened yesterday morning. And I am happy for him and anyone who has found love.

(What? you didn't think I would use this as an excuse to add a pic of Tom in speedos? Ha)

Everyone deserves to be in love with whoever they want to be. I for one will NEVER judge anyone's sexuality. But does it show how FAR we have come when a statement like this is made or does it show how far there is still to go in acceptance of peoples sexuality when someone like Tom has to make a public announcement AND it is one of the lead stories on news channels across the globe?

It is 2013 and I do think it is a shame that people are even asked about their sexuality. What happens next? Will people have to make a statement to the newspapers to announce that they are now 100% sure that this is the right time to share with the world that they are heterosexual? 

I know for a fact that there are people out there who struggle with their sexuality, does it help when someone like Tom Daley comes out of the closet? (personally I hate that term) or does it worry people that such a big deal is still made about it, in a time when it should just be accepted that people can love who they damn well choose and not have to feed a hungry media frenzy?

I really would love to know how people feel about this.

My opinion is, Love who you want to love, gender does not matter, if you love someone who makes you laugh, loves you back and makes you live, then hold on tight to that person and enjoy every moment. In 2013 someone's sexuality should not be an issue but I am glad that Tom Daley has the strength and support to be able to stand up and say, this is who I am with and who I am.

What do you think?

Let me know.

Big Fashionista x x x

ps, No homophobic comments will be published, peddle your hatred elsewhere.



  1. I agree that it's a sad ol' world when someone has to declare he's seeing a guy just so he can go to the pub with him or go for a meal. I really hope the press don't make his life a misery. He's only 19, FFS. I applaud him for coming out and if anything, it's made me respect him even more.

  2. I completely agree with this post :3 Love is love and it doesn't matter weather you're partner is a girl, boy, transgender or older/younger than you. All that matters is that in any relationship you are treated with respect :) xo ps I like your hair :)


  3. You've said just what I was thinking. The Tom Daley story was one of the top headlines on yesterday's news, and I immediately thought how sad it is that in 2013 somebody's sexuality should be headline news. The fact that they've found love - yes, that's always a big deal for the people involved, and they have every right to share the news especially if they are well known, but the genders of the people involved ought not to be news headlines. We should be grown up enough for a person's sexuality not to matter unless you're planning to sleep with them

  4. .... on second thoughts, we're talking about Tom Daley here and I suspect 90% of the adult population of the UK *is* secretly planning to sleep with him.....

  5. "In 2013, someone's sexuality should not be an issue"

    Well, you know homosexuality was only decriminalised in 1967, it wasn't that long ago, and the UK, and indeed a lot of the developed world, has shown itself to be slow-moving on issues surrounding gender and sexuality.

    It was 1918 when certain middle class ladies over 30 were very kindly given the vote by those jolly fine chaps in the Houses of Parliament, and 1928 when it was noticed that other, non-middle class women were people too, and they were also allowed to vote. Yet STILL there are gender related issues when it comes to wages, and sexism isn't exactly a rare thing.

    Similarly, over in the US, political campaigns are still being run, where the agenda is based on taking away women's access to family planning services and contraception, and they are widely supported.

    The reality is, unfortunately, that however enlightened and liberal some people may be, there will be a substantial percentage of the population who are close-minded, and who pass their views onto their children, to perpetuate negative gender attitudes and unreceptiveness and intolerance to differing lifestyles and personal, perfectly legal, choices.

    Therefore, even in 2013, it is a good thing for a young man like Tom to 'come out' and identify himself with a particular section of society, in order to continue to normalise attitudes.

  6. I agree with everything you said and I agree with Jane Willis, it's sad that it was headline news. So what if he's in a relationship with a man?

    At the same time though, if his video gives people who are worried about telling their friends or family the confidence to tell them then it's not a bad thing.

    Rosie x

  7. Every time a celebrity comes out and the response is almost overwhelmingly positive it helps someone who is struggling with the confidence to do likewise. Therefore I applaud Tom Daly for it. It always surprises me just how much more accepting society is now than it was when I was a teenager. There is still some way to go, but we have come so far. Not sure it warranted a spot on the news though.

  8. I really doff my hat to Tom Daley, and I wish him all the happiness he deserves. I do think it's sad that it's a newsworthy event, but I really admire him for publically stating that he's in a relationship with a man. Young gay men are more at risk of death by suicide than by any other means. It's so important to have positive public figures to reduce the stigma, and to make it easier for other young people to have these conversations.

  9. The thing that bothers me most is that all the newspapers etc. are saying 'Tom Daley comes out as gay'. I've seen the video. That's not what he does. He says he still fancies girls and that he just now happens to be in a relationship with a man. Different thing. There's more to sexuality than gay or straight. Sorry, rant over. I was borrowing your corner. x

  10. I admire Tom for the candid and honest approach to. His maturity despite his tender years shines through. I think the real story here isn't the fact he loves a man, it's the fact he's an athlete who loves a man. Sportsmen and women are very unlikely to 'come out'; how many can you name who didn't wait until they retired? It strikes me as a very judgemental profession. Which makes Tom's decision even more brave.

  11. Personally I don't give a flying whatsit what sexuality a person is. I do admire Tom for being so upfront about it all, but on the other hand why is is all front page stuffage, it isn't going to affect anyone else really is it.

    In all honesty does it matter who a person loves? Love is love, simple really.

    My tuppence worth there

  12. I completely agree. I think it's sad that Tom Daley had to announce his sexuality and that it was world news! It's just ridiculous! I think it's great that being homosexual is now much more accepted than it was 30 years ago but I still think society has a long way to go! My mum's reaction to the news was "what?! Is this the fashion now?!" I got so angry at her. People need to accept the fact that it is not uncommon to not be straight, I personally don't think it ever was but because it is becoming more accepting, more people are 'coming out'. I can not wait for the day when people don't have to 'come out' or announce their sexuality if it is anything other than heterosexual. People should be allowed to fall in love with whoever they want and not be judged or thought of any differently, it's just who they are!
    Sorry for the rant, thank you for the post, as you can probably tell, I feel rather strongly about this topic!

  13. you know what annoyed me the most everyone saying he was gay .....eh no hes not haha
    he said hes with a guy but he still likes girls by all accounts hes Bisexual if anything but no one seemed to be taking that part seriously he came out to correct things that were wrong but the media just started saying "GAY" so technically the thing he tried to prevent and stop got worse? i hate the media!


  14. I think it's a shame that he had to make the announcement, it shouldn't matter. He, and anyone else, has the right to love who they want and no one should be allowed to judge them for that. I really hope that in my lifetime 'coming out' will stop being a thing and people will just accept love in all its forms.


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