Monday, 14 July 2014

Body Snarking And Why I'm Not A Piece Of Meat

No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.

In case you aren't getting what I'm saying here.


I am ALL for body confidence, I feel that lately I have experienced an epiphany where it comes to body confidence and instead of exhausting myself and making myself damn miserable in the process I am learning to love who I am, for who I am. I may lose weight, I may not. However whatever I do, I WILL NOT PUT DOWN, OR MAKE DISPARAGING COMMENTS ABOUT ANOTHER BODY SHAPE to make myself feel better.

And people who do? Nope, you are not people I want to share my cake with. (Trust me, I don't share my cake with just anyone) 

Some people will say that the picture above is just banter (Words that were actually used to me when I pulled up the person posting it)

It is the equivalent of saying, "It's just a JOKE"

Oh that's ok then.

(No, it isn't) 

Body snarking is not okay, for anyone. We don't need it. No-one needs it. IT isn't an Us V Them situation here at all. We come in different sizes, different body shapes.  It is a beautiful thing. we should CELEBRATE what we have instead of trying to make others feel bad.

Would anyone be happy if the poster was flipped?

You wouldn't order a steak if it was all fatty, so why would you want a woman that way?

Fuck, I can see that as a Daily Mail headline, can't you?

All jokes aside, it isn't nice is it? So why is the original poster, "Just banter"

I don't even like steak, and I'm not a piece of sodding meat anyway. 

So let me hear your thoughts.

What do you think of the original poster? How do YOU feel about body snarking?

Let me know.

Big Fashionista x x x



  1. I know exactly what you mean, though my main problem with that hideous image is the fact that they've spelt curvy wrong. I was looking on Pinterest for some workout ideas yesterday and there was one that said 'Work out, because have you ever heard a guy say he wants a fat girlfriend?' Are you kidding me? This had been pinned onto a load of fitness boards too. There are a million reasons why I want to be fitter, but because a man might not want me to be fat is not one of them. Body snarking sucks. xo

  2. I saw a similar one the other day saying something along the lines of 'why would I want to be a size 0, I dont want to look like a 12 year old child' and I thought then of a couple of friends I have who while not being a size 0, hate their bodies for being childlike and shapless (their description) and wish they had curves like me. Making yourself feel better by shaming others is never acceptable.

  3. Hear hear! I totally agree. I'm like you in so many ways .. all for promoting positive body image, but for ALL sizes. I'm a bigger woman but would never denigrate anyone because they're slimmer. People are weird. Fact.

  4. I hate hate HATE body snark of all kinds. I know how awful it is when people judge me for my size, so doing it to someone else would just be nasty. Any kind of divisive behaviour harms women, we need to fight each other's corner, not divide ourselves into camps according to the size of clothes we wear.

  5. Completely agree with what you're saying and I love your honesty as always. I hate the fact that it's always skinny women vs bigger women. We're all beautiful and unique and should embrace that. If we were all the same life would be pretty boring. x

  6. Just got around to reading this and couldn't agree more. Years ago watched a discussion on this on Robert Kilroy Silk (showing my age). Larger ladies were on the stage and when this man said that he likes his wife to be slim, she was, they went mental. However, whenever someone said men prefer meat on their women, they were cheering. The hypocrisy!


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