Wednesday, 22 April 2015

Things I have learnt, before turning 40

At the end of this year, I will turn 40, (Cue much screaming and checking for grey hairs) The first 40 years of my life have been....... fun. I kind of see them as a practice run for the next 40 years.

I plan to add to this post, I am sure that I will keep thinking of new things that I have learnt, I don't want to turn it into a list of cliches but they are cliches because they are true.

So what have I learnt from the first 40 years?

I have learnt,

Life is too short to be unhappy. 

Crap job, bad relationship, friends who constantly drag you down? You do not need that kind of negativity in your life. Cut all ties, start something new. This is not a practice run, this is your life and you are too goddamn important to be unhappy for even a second.

Laughter is important.

Bad jokes aside, there is nothing more important than laughter, they say it is the best medicine and I don't think they are wrong, I have laughter lines on my face and I have earned every one. I like how my face crinkles when I laugh. I love people and things that make me laugh. I love hearing children laugh, and funny cat gifs of cats wearing glasses are ALWAYS welcome in my world.

Haters gonna hate.

Yes they are, Fuck em.

Good friends are worth their weight in gold.

Cherish your good friends, they are awesome. If there is someone in your life who you can call at 3am and tell them you need them, and you know they will come straight away, they are a true friend. Those people who take, take, take and don't give back, they are not friends. Friends will tell you when you are wrong, listen to them. Friends will tell you when you really shouldn't do something. TRY to listen to them. At nearly 40, I have lost friends to cancer, accidents and other senseless reasons. I miss these people in my life. Cherish your friends and be there for them at 3am if they need you.

It is nice to be important, it is more important to be nice. 

It sounds like a cliche but it is oh so true. BE NICE. Nice is good, nice is underrated. I wish more people were nice.

Buy the shoes.

I cannot stress this enough, you can afford something, you want something, BUY IT, and then enjoy it. Don't get guilt over it, don't spend time fretting about it. wear them, eat them, enjoy them, use them. BUY THE GODDAMN SHOES.

Age is but a number.

When I was 15, 40 seemed SO OLD! Now I am nearly 40 and thinking, but, but, 40 isn't old. I am not ready for the scrap heap just yet, (I have so many more people to piss off) I am realising that actually I don't think I will ever feel old. I will ache, I won't be as fast, flexible or awake as I once was, but thats ok. I'm not OLD. OKAYYYYYYYYYYYY?

What have you learnt in the time that you have been on the earth?

Let me know.

Big Fashionista x x x



  1. I missed turning 30. I was 28 for 4 years and then I turned 32. I'm sorry I didn't have a big party. But I agree with everything you have written here... Buy the shoes. Laugh loudly, and haters gonna hate... you can let it weigh you down or you can use their bullshit to grow your flowers...Flowers are always nicer to look at ;)
    for my 40th... BIG party. BIG BIG party.

  2. Fab post Kellie! Main thing I've learnt is you can't please everyone sometimes you've got to disappoint people to do the best thing and that's OK... And it's OK to change your mind... As long as it's not on a whim.

    Lucy xxx

  3. Love this, turning 40 in August. Not bothered by it at all, looking forward to a good party but not the hangover. One thing I have learnt is that hangovers last longer the older you are, add a day for each decade over 20.

  4. By this time next year I will be approaching 50 - yeah think on that. The trouble with turning 40 or 50 is that you are quite likely to have lived longer than you have left to live, if you get my drift. I cannot believe that I am going to live another 49 years - and that is somewhat sobering. To paraphrase and slightly misquote Will Self, you spend so much energy and effort striving to get to the pinnacle and peak in your 20s and 30s and then suddenly you are there and down the other side in the blink of an eye.


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