Monday, 11 January 2016

How To's, Blogging Clones and Being A Bad Ass.

It is 2016, can we JUST STOP with the "How To Be The Best Blogger In The Whole Wide World" posts now, please?

The tutorials, the step-by-step guide to being the next big thing, the How not to's, can we just STOP?

Here is the reality.

You are meant to fail, your blog is meant to be SO bad that only two people read it, (and neither of them write comments) you are meant to give up on it.

And THEN, you will get a bit better, you will develop your own style, then one morning you will write something and TEN people will read it, and you are amazed. You will get your first comment and you will BURST with pride. The feeling of hitting 100 hits on a post for the very first time? WOW.

Then no-one will read again, and you will be plagued with self-doubt. You will change your header 15 times, you will tinker with the layout, hone your skills and you will see those numbers increasing over time or you won't, you are MEANT to look back on your early posts and CRINGE SO HARD and then have a quick internal debate over whether you actually delete them so that they never see the light of day again or whether you are going to leave them there so that you can see how far you have actually developed in style.

There is NO quick route to being the best blogger in the world, and what always concerns me with blogger tutorial posts on how to get bigger and better is that, yes, those tips and tricks may have worked for them, but that is them, it is not you, it is not me. There are hundreds of thousands of blogs out there, some good, some bad, if everyone is following "Ten Tips To Be A Bad-Ass Blogger, how are you going to stand out and actually BE a Bad-Ass blogger?

Are you even you anymore?  

I could wrap this up with a paragraph or seven about being the best you that you can be, but quite frankly, that is a crap saying and I'm not going to preach blogging to anyone, at any time. It always concerns me when people take it upon themselves to bless the rest of the world with their blogging knowledge, as if they are doing everyone else a favour. Who wants to be a blogging clone anyway?

Not me.

How about you?


  1. Well said!

    There definitely seems to be a lot of "How to" posts about at the moment, most of them just regurgitate the same information and are purely written to gain traffic!

    Everybody has a different idea of "successful" and I agree with you that what works for one blog won't work for another.

    Hoping to see a decline in those kind of posts in 2016 but not going to hold my breath ;)

    Kate xx

  2. What gets me about these how-tos is that implies that blogging is easy and if you follow the rules then you'll be Zoella within a year. It's just not the case. What happened to blogging because you love writing or photography or simply because you have something to say?

  3. As always, you are 100% correct.

  4. The big fashionistas guide to being a badass!! I'd read it!
    But YES!!
    Gillian  xx

  5. Preach! The whole idea of blogging is to go on that journey, and learn along the way. At least, for me that's how it has been.

  6. As usual, treading where others daren't! Have to say though, my bullshit filter must be working pretty well as I've not seen too many of these 'How to' posts, the ones I have seen make me want to vomit though. Maybe I should retaliate and post a 'How not to be a mindless, boring drone' article ��

  7. Fab post. And so true.
    I have to say though that, I'm sure some bloggers are asked a few questions on how they do stuff, and a post about 'how i do' and it being written correctly may be OK, but i do dislike posts by people preaching how to be bigger and better. Blogging is individual (however this is difficult to see as there are so many 'same' bloggers out there at the moment) , what you like is different to them. and if you're copying, don't feel sad that you can't be yourself?
    I have to ask also, as I'm an oldie and a novice, but, do Dipping do different styles of layouts/designs, or did we miss the buy 5 get 5 free offer, as I've seen soon many of the same recently..


  8. This, This, This 100% Common Sense For You Lady As Per Usual

  9. this, this, this THIS! As hard as it is, everyone just has to concentrate on their own progress. Sometimes it feels like your getting nowhere and then you do, but there's no easy way! Not without becoming a cooky cutter version of somone else.

  10. Ahhhh Kellie it's SO refreshing to read this. I was feeling a little disheartened with my blog 'status' after 7 years of blogging, but you know what, everyone's different and people have different measures of success-I never thought ONE person would read my blog, let alone 10, so I have to remember that feeling when I feel a bit down about it!

    XO Amie

    Credit Crunch Chic

  11. Love this! And my god to do I cringe at my early posts - although I think I also cringe at the posts I read last week!

    C xx

  12. This post has totally hit the nail on the head! Its so easy to be so harsh on yourself and measure against others when you should only concentrate on your own growth!x


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