Wednesday, 27 January 2016

School Run In PJs? Is It Ever Ok?

You are standing in the playground, your child is well groomed, on time and at the front of the queue chatting to his friends. The bell rings and the children stream into school, excited for another day. As you leave, you see THAT mother. The one who is ALWAYS late, the one whose children are wearing the uniform, but it's not pressed. The children are clean, but have their breakfast around their mouths. You look at the mother, she is still wearing her PJs. You sigh, you look away and you pride yourself on the fact that it isn't you. You walk away, slightly smug that your child is never late. YOU ARE NOT THAT MOTHER.

But wait, do you KNOW this mother?

Do you know her story?

Have you taken the time to make sure SHE is ok? How do you know that she isn't struggling? Maybe she is a single mum, maybe she has been up all night with a teething baby, or sobbing because she doesn't know how she is going to feed her children that week. MAYBE she is always late, in her PJs, rushing from one place to the next, but have you ever taken a second to find out WHY?

Ever offered to hold the buggy while she takes her child to the office to explain why they are late? OR do some people just walk on by, feeling slightly better about THEMSELVES, because that isn't them.

I know I have. I have stood there and said, "Yes but how easy is it to just throw on some clothes?" and it is, FOR ME. But for others, it is just too much. And yes, I get it, there are some people out there that cannot be arsed. But let us not think that EVERYONE who turns up to the school in PJs is just lazy. There may be something more to it.

Instead of judging other people, why don't we offer to help other people anymore? Is it that the only way we can feel smug about our parenting skills is to look at someone who perhaps isn't doing as well as us, and look down on them? I don't want to BE that person.

Do you?

Let me know.



  1. Hey - she's got her kids to school, dressed and fed. Full respect to her, it obviously hasn't been easy! Great post, it's way too easy to judge people without having the first clue about them.

    Jess xo | The Indigo Hours

  2. You are right! I admit I judged this morning when I heard about the whole doing the school run in your PJ's news story! I never thought of it like this...Thank you! x

  3. I didn't realize this was an issue! In my corner of the world, people wear casual clothes & pj's all the time. To make a bodega run, while doing the laundry, on the way to yoga class. Pajamas are clothes, dude, they totally count! Unless you sleep naked and didn't bother to put ANYTHING on before taking the kids to school, I don't even see a problem here. Can't believe some people would actually make this newsworthy.

  4. You obviously didn't read the full story. It started with 1 mum then 2,3, 4 etc and continued to be quite a few. Then it got to parents wearing pj's to parents evenings and school plays etc!! If it was just 1 mum then I could understand what you are saying!

  5. Fully appreciate why parents do it, I can't even imagine the stress of getting kids up and out the door? However, when you see students in supermarkets... can't help but feel there's less of a reason there!

  6. Beautifully written! I have Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome, a connective tissue disorder &, while I can never see myself being the Mum dropping he kids off to school in her PJs (though this may happen, I have no idea how I will cope with motherhood!), I can completely understand why others who are struggling because of their own illness or life circumstance do. These women should be praised for getting their kids to school in the morning, fed & in their uniform. They are putting the needs of their children first. I have only ever gone out of the house in my PJs once & that was to A&E because I was too ill to stand & dress myself. But if the time comes when I have to take my kids to school in my PJs, so be it. Their education is more important than my pride. I hope I would be one of the people to offer support to someone who clearly needs it & that support would be offered to me too. Xx

    Tania | When Tania Talks

  7. She could have always just finished that 12 hour night shift and needs to get straight into bed after the drop off.. Waves


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